Smokefree days: 365 days
Grams NOT smoked: 3650
Total savings: $5,124.00

This summit, for so many years, seemed impossible to reach, so much so that I firmly believed I was one of a handful of addicts for whom recovery was hopelessly unachievable.

I’d watched smoking destroy my Mother, robbing her of her health, then her life, at 58 years of age. This was such a huge loss for me, the grief over losing my best friend and soul mate was overwhelming. I felt angry that she had not tried harder to quit smoking, to be there for me, for my son, who had lost his loving, devoted Nan, and that my unborn baby would never get to meet her or know her huge capacity to love.

It was not long after the birth of my second son that I joined this blogging community – I was desperate, lost and felt so alone. I’d realised that it wasn’t a matter of “trying harder” to quit smoking. It was a battle of wills – and the addict in me was clearly in charge. Here I found solace, I wasn’t alone! Here I found inspiration, following the journeys and successes of others just like me. Here I received the most amazing, unwavering, non-judgemental support.

I don’t know how many attempts there were. How many times I fell and struggled to get back up. ALWAYS, my quit family stood by me, picked me up and dusted off my bum. Time and time again, year after year.

My quit family believed in me when I had lost all hope, you supported me through some terrifyingly dark days, you refused to give up on me even though I had given up on myself. I made friends here, cyber friends, but friends in the true sense of the word. I only wish I had friends like these out here in the real word – oh, what I could achieve!

Still, this milestone, these stats, is my biggest achievement ever (even tops delivering my second son, all by myself, at home, after an incredibly quick labour!). Mum’s passing and the emptiness that she left behind was the catalyst for me to keep trying but I could never have done it without you guys.

Now, I stand here absolutely bursting with pride, having planted MY flag in this new territory – no longer chained to smoking. I am FREE. I DID IT!!!

And believe me when I say, if I can do it, you can too! NEVER STOP BELIEVING!

THANK YOU!

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    fagoff said:
    03 March 2015

    wow that is fantastic ,I think I know what you mean about believing you would not be able to break the addiction and having so many attempts that didn't stick. I was the same just over 6 months ago . Congratulations you should be proud its a huge achievement . (-:

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    PSPSP said:
    03 March 2015

    Heiro-words fail me. Nothing I can say can convey the magnitude of your achievement.



    So I can only say, congratulations to a very special member of this site. Wow!

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    Sexymwahz said:
    03 March 2015

    I am absolutely so proud of you and those beautiful, successful, triumphant, victorious THREE HUNDRED AND SIXTY FIVE DAYS OF FREEDOM!! Congratulations.. Today ii celebrate 37 and although its just a month and a week.. right now ii idolize your beautiful 365 incredible days.. You are more than an inspiration and with these tears that fall upon my cheeks ii give you massive hugglez for your greatest accomplishment ehoa.. Loads of Love and many magical miracles.. ~mw(",)h~

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    mikeyb07 said:
    03 March 2015

    Im loving this blog in so many different ways that words fail me

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    rainbowfish said:
    03 March 2015

    Oh Heiro, my gorgeous cyber-friend....I am SO proud of you. Your Mama would be so proud of you too. It hasn't been easy, but you've done it. Feels good aye:)
    Huge congratulations sweet pea, and in keeping with the title of your blog, Sir Ed would say you "knocked the b.... off".
    Thank you for sharing your journey with us....you played a huge part in mine, and I thank you so much for that Heiro.
    PS. Your little man is adorable, happy birthday for him coming up xx

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    suemack said:
    03 March 2015

    Woooohooooo! Heiro, you rock!!! Happy Breathday hugs and love!

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    Hollie said:
    03 March 2015

    Heiro, I truly have tears running down my face reading your blog. I always knew you would make it AND YOU DID. CONGRATULATIONS.

    I really wish I could take you out to celebrate. You so deserve a massive celebration. I always believed in you, there were times you just didn't believe in yourself.

    Your little man is just gorgeous.



    With my love and take care



    Bev



    PS: I know one person who is going to be mighty proud of you and that is ....... POPS (I think he is in Tauranga at present)

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    Calmwaters said:
    03 March 2015

    Happy Breathday Heiro. So very happy for you! CONGRATS :)

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    clarebear said:
    03 March 2015

    My eyes are leaking

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    AXL said:
    04 March 2015

    What a very moving and inspirational blog Heiro. Take note Quitline - blog of the year! 1 year smokefree! We are all so proud of you☺☺☺

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    yoda67 said:
    04 March 2015

    So proud of you Heiro. Such a fantastic blog. Well done.

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    Hollie said:
    04 March 2015

    Just re-reading Heiro's blog and yes QUITLINE I totally agree with Axl231261 this is BLOG OF THE YEAR

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    Yorkshire Lass said:
    04 March 2015

    Just made my day reading this blog. Heiro, I am so very proud of you. You deserve this so much. You truly are an inspiration. Happy Breathday to you.xxxxx

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    Chrystalrainbows said:
    04 March 2015

    Wow!! Look at you now!! Inspirational Heiro ....

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    DragonLips said:
    04 March 2015

    OMG! OMG! I actually just squealed in the office at work and people looked at me funny! I am soo incredibly proud of you my friend. What a lovely surprise to see this blog today. You fought so hard for this day through thick and thin and YOU HAVE DONE IT! You're the best Heiro xxxx Happy Breathday! and isn't the view just grand from the top of smokefree mountain?! You made my day Heiro. Please have a lovely treat to celebrate, you deserve it.

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    Saffron said:
    04 March 2015

    What a fantastically wonderful blog, heiro and it thrills me to be able to wish you a very Happy Breathday and many congratulations! This is a brilliant achievement and one to be SO proud of! Please enjoy celebrating. Sending you lots of love and hugs ☺♥xx♥☺

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    Nana22 said:
    04 March 2015

    Absolutely love your blog Heiro! A very Happy Breathday to you. Huge congratulations for all that you have achieved. You are strong, you are determined, and you are very very awesome. Have a wonderful day.
    Think i'm a bit in love with your gorgeous wee man.

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    Elevtheria said:
    04 March 2015

    Dearest Heiro. I am immensely proud of you! you are a wonderful person and now you too, know that you are also a very strong person :) You have friends, not only cyber friends... I'll always be here, and whenever you feel like it, we can meet - will ALWAYS be here for you. Love you lots :) xxx

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    Thunderbirds are go said:
    04 March 2015

    Oh, how wonderful! Many congratulations for your Breathday yesterday, Heiro. He he, I'm doing a little happy dance. You did it!!!!! (we knew you would)

    ♫♪ ♫♪ ♫♪
    "Zip-A-Dee-Doo-Dah
    Zip-A-Dee-A

    My oh my, what a wonderful day
    Plenty of sunshine heading your way
    Zip-A-Dee-Doo-Dah
    Zip-A-Dee-A"

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    yas01 said:
    04 March 2015

    Hi Heiro
    Look at you girl!
    You did it we always knew you could.
    With your ups & downs, everything that has been thrown at you, you still kicked some demon butt & you now have achieved you goal of smokefree.
    Im so happy & proud of you
    xxx

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    Dididi said:
    04 March 2015

    Oh thats such a wonderful blog my friend, Im so super proud of you and your achievements, I sincerely hope your going to celebrate !!!! Sorry Im late with my congratulations, ABSOLUTELY FANTASTIC!!!!

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    PokuruGirl said:
    04 March 2015

    Kaboom! She is the wind beneath our wings ... LOL. Your wee man will never know a smoking, smelly Mum and that's a great gift to him. Congrats on one year smokefree Heiro. I for one am very proud of your achievement.

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    M-dog said:
    04 March 2015

    I am so glad that I logged in today! Congrats Heiro, I am so glad you have done it, and I am sonorous of you! You have been here as long as I, and we ate now both doing it!



    Congratulations - you rock.

    X

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    Janet G said:
    04 March 2015

    Ohhhhhhhh Heiro :) :) :) :) :)
    HUGE CONGRATULATIONS to you !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Wow, you really have surmounted a mountain!!
    Your baby is sooooo damn cute... look at his cute little belly and his huge grin :) :) Just want to snuggle with him :) :)
    Soooooooo proud of you :) :)

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    Youngatheart said:
    04 March 2015

    Congratulations to you Hero!! You are an inspiration to us all!! xoxo

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    PYTnz said:
    05 March 2015

    oh Wow... here you are, you made it :) I knew you could do it... yay for you xx

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    KevdaRev said:
    06 March 2015

    YEEHAH!!! blessings to you too. I have always enjoyed your comments and having you along for the ride. I often wonder how you are doing...it would seem you are doing very well! You are free indeed and it's true ...never stop believing!- Kevxxx

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    Ladylene said:
    06 March 2015

    Oh no Heiro .. I missed your big day .. Ill sing it anyway

    ♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥Happy Breathday to You, ♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥ ¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪ Happy Breathday to You ♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥ ¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪ Happy Breathday dear Heiro ♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥ ¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪ Happy Breathday to You ♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥ ¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪

    Fantastc job Heiro and great blog too. I cried when I read it Heiro .. I feel so proud for you :) I'm not sure that I know anyone in here who fell off the wagon so many times and yet kept crawling back on again, time after time after time. We all knew you would do it because you showed such incredible determination! Well done you .. big hugs from me :)


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    Kathry said:
    06 March 2015

    Absolutely fantastic. Well done.

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    shoegal said:
    07 March 2015

    Congrats!!!! awesome work :)!!!

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    Winn0401 said:
    08 March 2015

    Way to go Heiro! We may have been behind you but it was your own inner strength that achieved it!

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    Supermom said:
    08 March 2015

    There's just one word. Awesome. xo

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    stevo mc said:
    08 March 2015

    I knew you would eventually get here Heiro. Congrats on never giving up :) big hugzzzzzzzzz

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    maggie said:
    09 March 2015

    sorry im late but congrats Hero how fantastic is that onwards and upwards xxxxx

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    sunray said:
    10 March 2015

    Sorry to be so late with this comment Heiro......amazing, inspiring blog. Happy breathday to you. Congratulations and well done. ⭐

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    Pacificpearl said:
    12 March 2015

    Dear Heiro, popped in to see how everyone was doing and I missed your 365 days so sending you a great big CONGRATULATIONS - this has made my day!! You should be so very proud of yourself as so many of us are that have watched your journey. You have stumbled and fell and picked yourself up again and carried on. So in the words of one of my favorite bands Abba, you are a Super Trooper :) xx

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    Pop's said:
    14 March 2015

    Sorry for the late posting & sorry i missed your big day.



    You did it my Friend, you absolutely nailed it.



    Happy belated Breatheday. Enjoy your success & naturally many more to come.



    So happy & proud of you.



    You make handsome babies. You must be so pleased. Hugs to all.

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    clarence the cat said:
    18 March 2015

    Heiro, I'm so sorry I missed your big day. I have watched you struggle and conquer so many adversities. I am so very proud of you. I am so happy for you.
    Hugs to your wee man. He must be close to his first birthday, if he hasn't already reached that milestone. I hope you see this as I am mortified that I missed your big day. Take care xx

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    Darja said:
    15 April 2015

    Ahhhhhhh I missed it!!!! So sorry!!!! I am bursting with happiness that u made the first year!! How fricken exciting!!!! You are a total star and inspiration to your family & your quit family including me xx

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    jellykelly said:
    20 April 2015

    Just wonderful!!

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    nanaturtle said:
    01 May 2015

    Hi Heiro-3plus years ago I came here frightened, shaking&soooo unsure. Clarence, Rainbow,Ady&yourself were there welcoming me like you were expecting me& finally I had arrived! I knew I had come to the right place&probably at the best time. Your praise helped to bouy me along, desparately clutching whilst sinking&there was a lifeline-Hero blog-encouraging, encouraging. All the while facing your own demons. Thank you Heiro-thanks to you(&our other quitmates) I too have achieved freedom. I hope you are safe in your quit&your quietness is cos you dont need us anymore. Very best wishes to you&your virtual family Heiro-Cheryl 《X♡O♡X》

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    Mitchee said:
    20 May 2015

    Nawwwwww our "shiney balls of steel pom pom shaking pants on the ground chicky babe" you made it sweets............I really can't add any more to whats already been said. This is surely your moment, and where ever your mama is I know she is proud of girl ♥

    Soz for the lateness, but I'm visits here are very few these days....however....congratulations hun and thank you so much for your unending support in my quit journey xx

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    jellykelly said:
    18 June 2015

    you did it you did it you did it you did it!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    JazzieAngel said:
    22 July 2015

    I am sorry I missed your Breathe day. Congratulations honey, I am sooooooooo proud of you. As always, you are truly inspiring. You have the right to stand free and proud xxx

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    nga said:
    21 August 2015

    Too much you go girl. I'm so so so so so happy for you. takecare.

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    Debin said:
    15 October 2015

    awesome:) HI5

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    Ianaday said:
    27 October 2015

    Bet your mum looking down so proud of you

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    clarence the cat said:
    24 February 2016

    Heiro I hope you see this!! I am so sorry I have missed some of your blogs. I have often wondered how you were doing and I saw your comment on Mitchee's blog today and I was so excited to see that you are alive and doing very well. You will always be my little Heiro. You fought so hard to be SMOKEFREE and I am so thrilled you made it. xx

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    nanaturtle said:
    27 February 2016

    Getting close to 2years now! If I'm not around when you reach your 2ndBreathday-take this as A Congratulations today. We have been Blessed having you here. . Thank you xo

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    Aimzee said:
    02 May 2016

    I just wanted to say thank you for this blog I am only on day 6 and have been reading these blogs for motivation. I too lost my mother at 58 this boxing day just gone and she too was my best friend and I watched her die a slow horrible and undignified death from smoking related diseases - i thought because it was so difficult for her to give up that it would be too hard for me and timing never seemed right always something stressful happening but last week 4 months on the day since she has passed i decided this is it and yes some hard days but i am really happy i feel strong and i know i can do it and anyway i just wanted to thank you for inspiring me

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    nga said:
    10 May 2016

    Hi mate, just wanted to say hi.

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    cryuff said:
    27 May 2016

    Hope you're doing well Heiro.

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    jenny said:
    02 June 2016

    Well done and so you should be proud of yourself.I hope one day I can say the same my journey is just begining.

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    maggie said:
    18 July 2016

    Well done Heiro !!!!!

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    Dioraidh44 said:
    08 November 2016

    So wonderful! Good on you!!

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    Dioraidh44 said:
    25 November 2016

    Thank you Heironymus, I needed to read your blog for inspiration, I back from falling off the wagon and at day 1 again. I will do it, your words are so good and I will continue to read them on my journey to be smokefree :)

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    Crusader#1 said:
    11 April 2017

    Well done Heiro. What a great achievement. Be rightfully proud because it is dark demon you have conquered and it is an awesome example you are setting for your family to follow. You are breaking the cycle which is an inspiration that will ripple out across the generations that follow.

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    BethRoby said:
    20 April 2017

    Thank you for sharing

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    Anna said:
    29 May 2017

    This was really inspirational. I am only 3 days smoke free and am feeling like it's not possible to keep going. Your story helps me remember that I'm not alone, and I can do it. Big congratulations and a big thank you :)

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    Lyn said:
    26 November 2017

    That is so cool xxx